So from the “The Things I Do For Friends…” file, comes todays long-awaited entry. I’ve been offline a few weeks due to that pesky RL day job thing that actually requires me to not be bumming around SL and, quite frequently, sends me off on travel. Just gearing up to start my Drag project- and I get sent offline.
I suppose the upside to these trips is, however, coming back to friends saying, “Hey, Nigel.. come model for me!” And as much as I love being behind the camera, I am a model whore for good photographers. So we went boot shopping, and while testing out looks and styles, went for the spiked heels from L&B. I think it came out ok. But not having any idea what Petr wanted to shoot- took my own shot and held onto it until after he did his.
Petr Hastings-Vanbeeck is a longtime friend. The Daddy Bear of Daddy Bears, I adore him. Sweet, kind, amazing photographer, and great friend over many years. We’ve done photos of each other here and there, some infamous ones at that. He often reminds me of the day I did a headshot of him in his “O Face” .. what can I say, I give good animation.
He asked me to take part in his “It Gets Better” project which I very happily did so. Its an important project and sliding it into SL makes more sense than I can appropriately explain. So many people come into SL to be who and what they want to be in a space where they are a hell of a lot safer than in the real world.
After shooting that, however, boys being boys the way we are, he says, “I should shoot you and Orlando in nothing but boots.” He has a way of getting me to say “Sure!” to things. It is a skill I must master. This skill is especially impressive considering he had just invited me to join him at a “Sunday Tea Dance” that involved me being surrounded by naked Daddy Bears in cowboy hats dancing to Cher at Blow Buddies on the Folsom Sim. I landed on the sim to his dance animation somersaulting him over my head and filling my screen with hairy bear ass. I screamed like a little girl.
The two things may seem completely separate, It Gets Better and Boots and Boys, but I assure you, they’re not.
We live in a world where its perfectly ok to be exactly who you are and how you are in one city but threatened and persecuted in others. There is absolutely no reason on this earth why someone should be afraid to be gay. Its who you are. And in SL- you can take that to new heights and be a 6’4″ daddy bear if you want. Or you can pose with your lover in nothin’ but a pair of boots.
Pride is coming up soon on SL. Be yourself. Be proud.